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I Want to Feel Guilty

I Want to Feel Guilty

Failure vs. Growth Taking Hiatus to Self-Reflect I have failed you this week, but more importantly I failed myself. I didn’t post anything to the blog. While I wanted to feel guilty for not posting anything I couldn’t find that guilt. At the end of […]

Are You Still There?

Are You Still There?

One Week Down & a Lifetime to Go As we prepare to head into the second week of 2018 I feel it’s important to reflect on the first week of the year. The new year began on a Monday which to some there is no […]

New Year Same Me

New Year Same Me

New year, new me? Nahh. New year same me, but I’m working on being the best version of myself. Everyone’s doing it. I wanted my first post in 2018 to be on the first of the year but like I said I’m not a new me so that was setting the bar too high. It was also a little too cliche. I mean come on, the first day of a brand new year also happens to fall on a Monday? Can a fresh start get any clearer? The new year always brings up the conflict of resolutions and why people wait until a new year on the calendar to attack their goals when that new year is never promised. If you’ve been following me for any amount of time you know that I decided to NOT wait until the new year put in work on my goals and self improvement so this post may be a little late, but like I said I’m still the same me.

A few months back I made a mental shift and I made the decision that there was no time better than the present to start working on myself. I had been going through it. I was done. I was tired mentally and physically all of the time and most importantly I was unhappy, but there was no one to save me. I realized I had to save myself. So I dived right in; I started reading more, meditating, I got back in the gym, and I spoke positivity into myself. A funny thing happens when you speak kindly of yourself, you radiate a more positive energy which I found in turns brings good to you. I don’t know if that’s just me, but the positive vibes I gave myself shifted everything around me.

I immediately noticed small changes. I was getting new opportunities, I found my tribe (hey ladies!) , I was able to purchase a new car, things are lining up for the purchase of my first home, and my travel calendar is filling fast. While nothing is perfect I have realized that I am already manifesting my goals and 2018 just started. So while I don’t have new year’s resolutions I will share some of my goals with you all so that you can hold me accountable (y’all know I need it!)

  1. Secure the bag (Secure a MINIMUM of 4 streams of income)
  2. Travel to 3 new countries (don’t laugh there are places I haven’t been yet)
  3. Find love
  4. Monetize the blog
  5. Live life unapologetically

So while people are out here setting all of these new year’s resolutions I feel as though I’m already well on my way to accomplishing my goals. I guess you can say I got a head start. I don’t know the future, but I know I’m glad to see 2017 go because it wasn’t the most healthy year for me. In 2018 I’m focused on self care, no longer making excuses, and living my best life. What are you waiting for?

Did I Say I Was Done?

Did I Say I Was Done?

I said I was taking a break until 2018, but when you love what you do how can you stay away? It’s the holiday season and everything is flying by in a blur. End of the year projects are wrapping up, family is preparing to […]

2017 Ain’t Thru With Me Yet

2017 Ain’t Thru With Me Yet

New year’s resolutions, we all set them but it is rare that we stick to them. A few weeks into the new year and many of us have already lost sight of the goals we promised to stick to this time around. No matter how […]

Juicing: How I Balance My Holiday Diet

Juicing: How I Balance My Holiday Diet

Did you know that during the holidays the average American puts on 8lbs? Considering the holidays only last about 2 months give or take that’s 4lbs per month which is absolutely ridiculous. It’s natural for your body to fluctuate at any given time, but it’s downright crazy to gain that much weight that fast. Plus is we’re being honest we all hate gaining the weight at the end of the day, am I right?

Well last year I started juicing. It’s nothing revolutionary and some may say I’m late to the game, but it has definitely changed my life. When I first started I juiced consistently for months but that was a tad bit overboard. What can I say, when I find something I like I tend to get a bit obsessive? Anywho, I decreased my juicing (after my first juicer died-sad day) but now I’m back and better than ever. Over this holiday season I’m finding that juicing is a god-send. With all of the rich, calorie ridden foods around every corner staring me down it’s hard to say no, but when I am armed with my juice it’s a little bit easier.

I find that when I juice I want to eat healthier. I want to do better. It’s like all of the fruits and vegetables get in my body and kick out the cravings. I don’t know if it’s my natural lack of a sweet tooth or if I’ve just gone mental, but either way it works. By juicing I don’t succumb to snacking on as many things or loading my plate as full which in the long haul saves me quite a few calories and maybe even some time at the gym because you can never outwork a bad diet.

This holiday season I may not be morphing into America’s Next Top Model but I am most definitely not packing on the pounds. I am staying energized and keeping my body in check so I don’t have to start from zero come the new year.

150 Years of Black Excellence

150 Years of Black Excellence

#HomecomingSzn at the Mecca Its been a hectic week, but last weekend I traveled back to Washington DC to attend the one and only Howard Homecoming. Returning to my alma mater is always a great experience, but there is something to be said about Homecoming […]

Boo’d Up

Boo’d Up

The Official Start of Cuffing Season September 22. Fall is officially here and you know what that means for the world of romance, cuffing season is upon us. For those of you that are unaware of what cuffing season is Urban Dictionary describes it as, […]

My Neck, My Back, My Anxiety Attack

The Truth Behind the Hidden Anxiety

Overachiever, perfectionist, detail oriented, these are just a few of the terms that people use to describe people with “high-functioning” anxiety. While “high-functioning” anxiety is not an official diagnosis it is used to describe those who are driven by their anxiety instead of left frozen in panic. It’s a struggle that a lot of people don’t understand. It’s not understood because from the outside looking in people who identify as having high functioning anxiety it appears as though they have everything together. These people are the life of the party, they excel in their career or in school and they appear to be more than organized, but let me tell you from first-hand experience that these aspects that you see as a positive are often just coping mechanisms.

Anxiety is something I never imagined being a personal struggle. I grew up with enough to worry about when it came to my health, but as I got older I had to face the music that my mental health is just as important as my physical health. I didn’t understand why my brain never stopped running or why I could never let things go. I make lists for everything, EVERYTHING. It’s my way of attempting to clear my mind. I often over analyze every conversation, interaction with friends and co-workers, and then I constantly worry about what I could have done differently. Something as simple as not getting a text back sends me into the abyss as to what I did wrong. In essence I go from zero to one hundred in the blink of an eye and I don’t even realize I’m doing it. It took me a long time to come to terms with anxiety, partially because I felt that I had to have everything together, but I realized that this was a “defect” of the condition. In reality my heart races constantly and I’m forced to laser focus on the task at hand in order to not lose my mind.

Explaining to others that you have anxiety can be scary. Very scary. It’s made even worse when you can’t explain to others what’s wrong or how they can help you. For me and others who deal with high functioning anxiety it can be that much worse. On the surface we are like ducks, calm, cool, and collected, but just below the surface we’re working at 100 mph just to stay afloat. In light of National Suicide Prevention week I felt it was important to share my struggle to let others know that they’re not alone. Dealing with any mental health issue is important and can sometimes be the difference between life and death. While explaining your struggle with anxiety or depression may seem like a daunting task just know I’m always a listening ear. Whether we’re friends, strangers, or family I’m always here.

New York: Escaping the Bright Lights

New York: Escaping the Bright Lights

Turning a Skeptic to a Fan I am not a fan of New York. There I said it. Gasp! I know I just ruffled some feathers, but I had to get that off my chest. I don’t do the overcrowded streets, the cramped apartments or […]